Why compare?

Man, this whole pregnancy thing is a trip! Everytime I think I have a handle on things, I get thrown a new curve. I'll admit I'm not the most romantic guy in the world, but I think that I do ok. I guess I can improve in that, but I like to think I make it up in other ways. When are women going to understand that comparing their partner to other people is the quickest way to get a guy to continue to do what he was already doing?

If I had a dollar for everytime I've heard, "Well so and so's boyfriend/husband/boytoy/whatever, does this, this and this", I could retire right now a very wealthy man. I mean who really cares what they do? I certainly don't and my response to that is, "Then go be with them." Simple, direct and to the point. And that's not even the best of it, half the time, they compare you to that person, if its someone you know, you probably can see, that they either don't mean it, or spend the majority of the time complaining about stuff their partner's doing!

The really funny thing is that most women I know will get offended if you compare them to other women, and God help you if you compare them to women they know. So its a blatant double standard! I mean c'mon, even little kids know not to do something to someone if they wouldn't like it happening to them.

I know myself personally, the second it starts happening, I'm not even listening anymore. I'm not trying to be Tom, Dick or Harry, I'm perfectly happy being myself. If that's not good enough for you, then too damn bad. If you want someone to tweak or change something about themselves, harping on and on about isn't going to work, and neither is comparing them to someone else. At least its not going to work with me.

Random Parenting Advice/Observations

Wow! I knew that being in a pregnant relationship would be interesting, but I didn't think it would be like this! Almost on a daily basis, I am given random parenting advice from well meaning individuals. Some of the more interesting advice I've been given, is "Well you can't go to clubs all the time anymore." Gee, I couldn't have figured that one out! Actually I figured I could go to clubs everynight after that happened! Wow! I mean c'mon! My buddy is actually going through the same thing right now. His girlfriend is about a week ahead of mine in terms of her pregnancy. We laugh about some of the advice we've been given.

I mean, this is the first time for me, so everything's new. I've never felt so useless in my life as the first time she (my girlfriend) got her morning sickness. And the most interesting thing that I've seen is how nervous she was getting as it came up to the 12 week period. This was a woman who was not really prone to emotional outbursts, but they were fast and furious leading up to that point. I'm excited, nervous whatever, but its not about me, not even a little.

As someone who enjoys the limelight ( a little), it was an adjustment. But its one I'm more than willing to make. Someone told me that pregnancy was the first stage on a bumpy ride, but it would end up being the best and most important thing I would ever be a part of. Its been interesting so far, and I can't wait for it (this stage) to be over. I mean, the pregnancy part is interesting, but to be a father? Wow! Now that takes courage! Maybe that will be when all the random advice I get, gets useful.