Wow, its been a while since I last posted, sorry about that. Anyways, the school year's finally over and I just have to look forward to the impending birth of my first child. I just don't understand why people ask you what you want. Its not like a meal or something! Its a child for crying out loud!
I'll make this post short, as long as the child is healthy, I'm ok! Its a week till the induction date, so I'm just trying to make sure everything's ok. I'll let you know when the baby's born.
Happy Canada Day!
Sunday, July 1, 2007
Tuesday, January 16, 2007
Why compare?
Man, this whole pregnancy thing is a trip! Everytime I think I have a handle on things, I get thrown a new curve. I'll admit I'm not the most romantic guy in the world, but I think that I do ok. I guess I can improve in that, but I like to think I make it up in other ways. When are women going to understand that comparing their partner to other people is the quickest way to get a guy to continue to do what he was already doing?
If I had a dollar for everytime I've heard, "Well so and so's boyfriend/husband/boytoy/whatever, does this, this and this", I could retire right now a very wealthy man. I mean who really cares what they do? I certainly don't and my response to that is, "Then go be with them." Simple, direct and to the point. And that's not even the best of it, half the time, they compare you to that person, if its someone you know, you probably can see, that they either don't mean it, or spend the majority of the time complaining about stuff their partner's doing!
The really funny thing is that most women I know will get offended if you compare them to other women, and God help you if you compare them to women they know. So its a blatant double standard! I mean c'mon, even little kids know not to do something to someone if they wouldn't like it happening to them.
I know myself personally, the second it starts happening, I'm not even listening anymore. I'm not trying to be Tom, Dick or Harry, I'm perfectly happy being myself. If that's not good enough for you, then too damn bad. If you want someone to tweak or change something about themselves, harping on and on about isn't going to work, and neither is comparing them to someone else. At least its not going to work with me.
If I had a dollar for everytime I've heard, "Well so and so's boyfriend/husband/boytoy/whatever, does this, this and this", I could retire right now a very wealthy man. I mean who really cares what they do? I certainly don't and my response to that is, "Then go be with them." Simple, direct and to the point. And that's not even the best of it, half the time, they compare you to that person, if its someone you know, you probably can see, that they either don't mean it, or spend the majority of the time complaining about stuff their partner's doing!
The really funny thing is that most women I know will get offended if you compare them to other women, and God help you if you compare them to women they know. So its a blatant double standard! I mean c'mon, even little kids know not to do something to someone if they wouldn't like it happening to them.
I know myself personally, the second it starts happening, I'm not even listening anymore. I'm not trying to be Tom, Dick or Harry, I'm perfectly happy being myself. If that's not good enough for you, then too damn bad. If you want someone to tweak or change something about themselves, harping on and on about isn't going to work, and neither is comparing them to someone else. At least its not going to work with me.
Tuesday, January 9, 2007
Random Parenting Advice/Observations
Wow! I knew that being in a pregnant relationship would be interesting, but I didn't think it would be like this! Almost on a daily basis, I am given random parenting advice from well meaning individuals. Some of the more interesting advice I've been given, is "Well you can't go to clubs all the time anymore." Gee, I couldn't have figured that one out! Actually I figured I could go to clubs everynight after that happened! Wow! I mean c'mon! My buddy is actually going through the same thing right now. His girlfriend is about a week ahead of mine in terms of her pregnancy. We laugh about some of the advice we've been given.
I mean, this is the first time for me, so everything's new. I've never felt so useless in my life as the first time she (my girlfriend) got her morning sickness. And the most interesting thing that I've seen is how nervous she was getting as it came up to the 12 week period. This was a woman who was not really prone to emotional outbursts, but they were fast and furious leading up to that point. I'm excited, nervous whatever, but its not about me, not even a little.
As someone who enjoys the limelight ( a little), it was an adjustment. But its one I'm more than willing to make. Someone told me that pregnancy was the first stage on a bumpy ride, but it would end up being the best and most important thing I would ever be a part of. Its been interesting so far, and I can't wait for it (this stage) to be over. I mean, the pregnancy part is interesting, but to be a father? Wow! Now that takes courage! Maybe that will be when all the random advice I get, gets useful.
I mean, this is the first time for me, so everything's new. I've never felt so useless in my life as the first time she (my girlfriend) got her morning sickness. And the most interesting thing that I've seen is how nervous she was getting as it came up to the 12 week period. This was a woman who was not really prone to emotional outbursts, but they were fast and furious leading up to that point. I'm excited, nervous whatever, but its not about me, not even a little.
As someone who enjoys the limelight ( a little), it was an adjustment. But its one I'm more than willing to make. Someone told me that pregnancy was the first stage on a bumpy ride, but it would end up being the best and most important thing I would ever be a part of. Its been interesting so far, and I can't wait for it (this stage) to be over. I mean, the pregnancy part is interesting, but to be a father? Wow! Now that takes courage! Maybe that will be when all the random advice I get, gets useful.
Sunday, December 31, 2006
A Look Back and Forward
Well it's New Year's Eve and at this time of year I always like to look back before looking forward. Was I the best person I could be? Did I do the best I could? Did I get what I'd hoped for this year or even what I deserved? The answer to all these questions is the same. No. Sure I wanted to be the best person that I could be, but I wasn't. I hurt people, some that I really care or cared about, sometimes intentionally and sometimes unintentionally. I didn't always do the best I could have, because sometimes I just didn't give a damn about what was happening. Did I get what I hoped for? In some instances, yes and in some no, and finally, did I get what I deserved? Well, maybe I'm not the best person to answer that particular question.
2006 was a strange year for me, but in some ways its come full circle. It was strange in that the same door that I thought had closed for me not only reopened but in a big way. As I look to 2007, this year seems to be special for me. I'm becoming a father in July, a homeowner in February. I'll be an uncle in March. This year for the first time in my life, it won't just be about me anymore. I'll have responsibilities to my girlfriend (who if you've read any of my previous posts wants a different title), to my child, my nephew, and so on. It'll be probably the toughest and yet most rewarding year of my life and I can't wait to get it started. Oh yeah, there's still some things that are gonna happen in '07 that will erk me and have me railing about the unfairness of it all, (like my beloved Wolverines not be given the chance to win the National title, thanks Urban!), but there's things like my beloved Man Utd Red Devils topping the table to start the New Year! So to everyone and anyone who actually reads this blog, I say: all the very best in the New Year, and here's some advice I got from my parents who in 06 celebrated 40 years of marriage to each other: Treat your partner as your best friend, hide nothing, and share everything. Plan, and play together, and above all, love each other. Be the best friend you can be, and love life, and everything in it. Take the time to listen to others, it can't just be you telling the stories, and tell your friends how much you appreciate them! All the best for the new year! And to all my friends, I appreciate and value you more than words can say!
2006 was a strange year for me, but in some ways its come full circle. It was strange in that the same door that I thought had closed for me not only reopened but in a big way. As I look to 2007, this year seems to be special for me. I'm becoming a father in July, a homeowner in February. I'll be an uncle in March. This year for the first time in my life, it won't just be about me anymore. I'll have responsibilities to my girlfriend (who if you've read any of my previous posts wants a different title), to my child, my nephew, and so on. It'll be probably the toughest and yet most rewarding year of my life and I can't wait to get it started. Oh yeah, there's still some things that are gonna happen in '07 that will erk me and have me railing about the unfairness of it all, (like my beloved Wolverines not be given the chance to win the National title, thanks Urban!), but there's things like my beloved Man Utd Red Devils topping the table to start the New Year! So to everyone and anyone who actually reads this blog, I say: all the very best in the New Year, and here's some advice I got from my parents who in 06 celebrated 40 years of marriage to each other: Treat your partner as your best friend, hide nothing, and share everything. Plan, and play together, and above all, love each other. Be the best friend you can be, and love life, and everything in it. Take the time to listen to others, it can't just be you telling the stories, and tell your friends how much you appreciate them! All the best for the new year! And to all my friends, I appreciate and value you more than words can say!
Wednesday, December 13, 2006
Finally Good TV
One of my pet peeves is the lack of good television that's available right now. Most shows are mind numbingly boring or just so ridiculous that it doesn't make sense watching it. Most reality shows are a joke due to the fact that editing basically makes them scripted and such base characters always emerge. The hero, the bitch etc. Finally I stumbled on a show that I can't get enough of. Friday Night Lights. For those of you who haven't actually watched the show, you're missing out. I'm not gonna go into detail about the show, I'll just recommend you watch it.
On a different note, how out there is George Bush? He's so out of it, its actually frightening. The scary thing is that what's happening in the US could happen here. Look at Maher Arar. As long as we have Bush's right hand man (no, not Dick Cheney) Stephen Harper as our PM we're in trouble!! Don't know if Dion can actually win against Harper, but I know Layton can't. So if comes down to Dion (who I know a little about, and actually seems interested in making our world better) and Harper, well I know what I'm gonna do. I gotta go with those who seem to want to leave this place a little better than the way they found it.
On a different note, how out there is George Bush? He's so out of it, its actually frightening. The scary thing is that what's happening in the US could happen here. Look at Maher Arar. As long as we have Bush's right hand man (no, not Dick Cheney) Stephen Harper as our PM we're in trouble!! Don't know if Dion can actually win against Harper, but I know Layton can't. So if comes down to Dion (who I know a little about, and actually seems interested in making our world better) and Harper, well I know what I'm gonna do. I gotta go with those who seem to want to leave this place a little better than the way they found it.
Saturday, December 9, 2006
What is the right title for relationships?
I've had this question for the longest time now. Its been a question that I've pondered at times and then as it had no resonance to me discarded but now I'm in this situation. I've been with my girlfriend (partner, whatever) for a while now. I love her obviously and she's now carrying my child. The problem is, what do I call her? Usually that depends on the situation and the company we're in. Around friends she's my babymama ( a term she loves by the way, note obvious sarcasm), which was coined by older brother, around my family she's my partner or whatever, and around other people she's my girlfriend. Now I know that I want to marry her at some point in the future, but no is not the time in spite of the external pressure we both receive but that's for another blog entry.
I have no problem with any of the above titles, she does. She is upset that I refer to her as my girlfriend due to its juvenile meaning and immediate association with high schoolish relationships. I have no idea how to respond to this simply because in my mind, its like what the hell am I suppose to call you then? As of this post, I have not come up with an alternative to girlfriend, much to her chagrin. Oh well, at least Manchester United will probably win the Manchester derby and open up a 9 point lead on Chelsea this weekend!
I have no problem with any of the above titles, she does. She is upset that I refer to her as my girlfriend due to its juvenile meaning and immediate association with high schoolish relationships. I have no idea how to respond to this simply because in my mind, its like what the hell am I suppose to call you then? As of this post, I have not come up with an alternative to girlfriend, much to her chagrin. Oh well, at least Manchester United will probably win the Manchester derby and open up a 9 point lead on Chelsea this weekend!
Thursday, December 7, 2006
1st Post
I often wonder why around Christmas time (or whatever winter holiday you celebrate), everything feels so rushed. There never seems enough time to get everything done. Rush here, go here, do this, do that. Sometimes I just want to do absolutely nothing at all. Just relax people, things will get done.
One other thing I often wonder about, is how do people really feel around this time? They say that its like the biggest time to be depressed and stuff, but all you see are the people running around buying gifts and generally acting happy. Man, if people spent more time focusing on how they really feel, maybe that might actually be happier or do something to make them actually happy.
One other thing I often wonder about, is how do people really feel around this time? They say that its like the biggest time to be depressed and stuff, but all you see are the people running around buying gifts and generally acting happy. Man, if people spent more time focusing on how they really feel, maybe that might actually be happier or do something to make them actually happy.
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